by tascha |
This is not exactly a “spiritually or Biblically-inspired” post.
It is more a “I wonder if anyone else has ever thought about it this way” post.
And it’s been sitting in my “draft” folder for a while now…
I had a conversation with a sweet new friend last night that prompted me to truly articulate this thought I’ve had for a while now:
Somedays, I truly feel as though motherhood may have given me a split personality {and I am not trying to belittle those with actual mental disabilities here!}.
I realize my children need ME.
But they need ME differently among them. They are each so individual and unique. Yes, I must be consistent in rules and discipline; but things they need, things they forget and need me to remind them of, things they have not yet learned, are ALL different for each one.
My poor oldest child, she is nearly a young woman, and yet I continue to remind her of things that, really, only her younger sisters need help with. I know that frustrates her. She’s so grown up and the others are still “babes”.
My middle daughter has some food and environmental allergies that sometimes means our whole family just misses out on stuff like… peanut-butter pie… because I just can’t chance it being around and her wanting a taste or being sad that she can’t have it. And she’s trying to grow up as quickly as her big sister, but she really isn’t there yet.
My third… a whirlwind of a girl. She plunges head-long into EVERYTHING she does. She has gusto! 🙂 And thinks very little, if ever, before acting. But her little heart is so tender and pliable, I must be restrained when calling a warning at her to not sit on her brother, or some other situation that could cause harm to one or multiple people. lol. She will just loose it, and the whole situation will disintegrate before our eyes.
My youngest is a boy. After 3 girls we have a boy. ‘Nuff said.
To those with more children, I am not trying to ‘prove’ my life is as hard or harder than yours… just stating some observations. 🙂
And then, my husband needs a WIFE, not a mother {he already has an awesome mother!}. And apart from “child of God”-which is my identity at its core- this is where I find my primary role in life – to be the best wife for him. If I’m an awesome mom and a lousy wife, I’ve not become what God created me to be!
And I do have a few friends… who like to speak to me as adult in my own right, not as a mother or a wife….
And so, maybe this is a little bit to be encouraging spiritually
… I need God! You need God! 🙂
If God does not help us in relating to all the most important people in our lives, we are a people most undone!
If I cannot be Christlike to my own family, how can I expect those outside my family to see Christ in me?
I’m not saying I loose it every day, but there is at least a portion of most days where I struggle really hard not to! And there have even been a few hours all strung together that I feel I {MIGHT} have it all together–HAHAHAHA. nope. not really!
And only bending my knee before His throne will help me be “ME”–a child of God–to those around me, whether I feel SPLIT or not. 🙂
by tascha
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I pray everyone rang in the new year safely and surrounded by loved ones!
{The actual ringing in found me sound asleep, but safe, and in my home with loved ones!}
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The New Year here marks the official dropping of my old blog and writing exclusively for this new address.
{{wooo-hoooo!!}
I must admit, I still wish I had the time and mental acuity to type a post every day. I truly admire those who do it. But, that will not be happening any time soon!
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As the old year came to a close, I began pondering just what DID I want to accomplish this next year {now THIS year!}.
And I came to the conclusion that I was not going to make any “year resolutions.”
I have read much in the past 2-3 days of why to or why not to make “New Year’s Resolutions.”
But my own adventure towards what I desire from this year came when I realized… that truly,
every day is a fresh beginning.
Of course, a new year is a BIG new beginning; but if I confine myself to only beginning anew at the beginning of the year, I will continue to fail-by today–the second day of the new year!
Because I’m human. I have many excuses in my repertoire… and I am a firm believer in: life is what happens after you make plans!
So, my “New Year’s Resolution” is to not have a YEAR’s resolution!
But to treat each day as a new beginning.
To approach the morning as a time of goal setting.
To approach the evening as a time of pondering.
To live intentionally and on purpose.
Instead of only making lists of what I want to accomplish [in vague general terms] on December 31 that would supposedly encompass an entire year, I will make lists multiple times a week-or however often I can remember!
And then accomplish tasks.
And complete goals.
And grow as a Christian-
in being a wife, mom, friend, sister and daughter.
A quote that struck me a couple of month ago {and I do not know the true origin as I found it on Pinterest} was:
The only person you should try to be better than is
the person you were yesterday.
by tascha
totally “fall”decor – it was beautiful!
So, today we had a wedding at our church-two young people who grew up in our church… who had a beautiful engagement and now wedding. I am praying their marriage is just as beautiful!
I read the Proverb for today, and there was many directions I could take this post.
But today, I am going to just tell you how God spoke to me at the wedding… even amid needing to take my children out because the baby was not agreeable :/.
yep, goldfish!
Today, I remembered just HOW MUCH my husband means to me. He is my gift. He is the man God gave to me to take care of and cherish me, and he does.
One of the songs sung during the ceremony spoke of “the two of us is all we need.” And another one sung spoke of “walking hand in hand”… being friends. My husband truly is my best friend. And to keep a harmonious friendship {with anyone!} I must be friendly {a different Proverb}. I must speak kindly, lovingly even when occasionally reproving. I must allow the Lord to temper my reactions when they are not what they should be.
gorgeous & delicious
And I must remember that, after God, he is my life.
My husband is my life!
He is my ministry. As and extension of our love, our children are my ministry… but they are not my life in the same way that my husband is. I must remember that I am training and teaching my daughters how to have their own home one day. I must teach my son about being a Godly leader in his own home with his own wife one day!
So, today, this evening…. I am remembering to be intentional so that he will know he is my life.
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by tascha
She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
Proverbs 31:13
The main emphasis of this verse is the this lady works WILLINGLY with her hands.
This thought encompasses many of the following verses and is the heart issue of them.
Though we will look at her specific tasks, the BIG issue is that she is willing to do what needs to be done during the different seasons of her family’s life.
Seeking wool and flax implies that she either gathers the raw materials to create fabric, or she acquired the fabrics needed to make clothing for her household. Linen comes from flax and was used for various undergarments, inner tunics, and lamp wicks. Flax seeds can also be ground and used in breads or can be eaten whole and are very nutritional [another topic]. Wool was used more for outer tunics which could also be used as a blanket on a cool night.
In thinking of these uses of flax and wool {and there are more!} we can see different responsibilities that this implies.
As a wife and mother it is my responsibility to
…clothe my family.
Whether I buy fabric and sew or purchase ready-made items, finding durable, modest, attractive clothing for my husband, myself, and our children is within my realm of duty. [This is not to say that my husband and said children have no say in their clothing!] Being frugal and finding deals, thrift shopping, and handing clothing down [or accepting second-hand clothing] all fit into this category.
…feed my family healthy foods.
[I am not legally qualified to speak of nutrition or recommend certain foods over others, but there are many resources online for studying it, and I have friends whose study I trust when they recommend certain plants for consumption.] You must rely on your own research for this.
Personally, I do try to have fresh fruits and veggies available for snacks, but more often find that frozen or canned are more in my price range, and simple cooking methods can elevate even canned peaches to a scrumptious dessert [with no added sugar!].
I use flax seed in my bread, and there are many other grains/seeds that can be added to flour to make bread more wholesome. Again, your own study must guide you in that.
…cover my family when it is cold and provide a light source when necessary.
Do we have enough blankets for the colder days? Is there an adequate light source to finish tasks or read a good book when the sun has gone to bed early?
[There are many other areas that could be discussed, but many of those are brought out in the next few verses and will be left to their own post.]
While it is truly {thankfully} not necessary that I herd sheep and grow/harvest flax to accomplish these tasks, it IS necessary that my heart is right in order that these tasks bring glory to God and cause my husband’s heart to safely trust in me.
Seeking his counsel and knowing his preference in any of these areas {I like his input on my own clothing as well as my children’s. To know what he likes and to try to accomplish that is doing GOOD to him.} is just another way of loving him.
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