respect | Designing 31

wearing Daddy’s shoes

Today I am posting over at Living on PB&J:

With Father’s Day just behind us, I was looking through some photos and found the one above….

My little man just turned 2 {on our 10th anniversary!}.

And he LOVES his Daddy!!!

And his Daddy IS pretty awesome. {yes, I am biased…. }

And some day… my little man will be a LOT like his Daddy.

Now, this could become a post TO Dads. But in my observations of families around me, I have found that the Moms have this crazy influence over what children think of their Dads.

So, I just want to say a word of encouragement to all Moms, everywhere….

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a crown for old men {day 17}

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Today is my youngest daughter’s 4th birthday.

this picture is a couple months old — and now a couple of years!

She is HOOT… and a whirlwind.

She has the energy of my entire life in her pinky. [still!]

And today, while reading the Proverb, I came to this verse:

Children’s children are the crown of old men; and the glory of children are their fathers. Proverbs 17:6

And it made me stop and think {as it has before} that MY children… are my parent’s “children’s children.”

with my grandparents <3

And I want them to be a “crown” to their grandfathers, and to their great-grand-parents!
And of course, I was reminded of another Proverb: Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

And that reminded me of a post I read [link is broken] yesterday… about “the way.”

Jesus is “the way.”

So, while rules give boundaries that are necessary, and we should expect rules to be obeyed, our main focus should be on pleasing Jesus… making Him our life.

And that in-between relationship… I know my husband {and I do too!} desires to live such a life that his children would see his heritage/legacy as a thing of glory, as something to desire to pass on to their own children one day.

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teaching respect

by tascha

to respect carries the idea of “showing regard to, paying attention to”

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Psalm 119:6

Then shall I not be ashamed, when I have respect unto all thy commandments.

[If I pay attention to and regard God’s Word, I will have no reason to be ashamed.]

Colossians 3:23-25

And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ. But he that doeth wrong shall receive for the wrong which he hath done: and there is no respect of persons.

[when we disregard God’s commands we will receive proper judgment just the same as the next person. No one is exempt from the consequences of his actions.]

Psalm 138:6

Though the LORD be high, yet hath he respect unto the lowly: but the proud he knoweth afar off.

[God will take notice of those who show humility.]

Some things we are commanded by God that show our respect for Him.

Ephesians 6:5-9

Servants, be obedient to them that are your masters according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, in singleness of your heart, as unto Christ; Not with eyeservice, as menpleasers; but as the servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart; With good will doing service, as to the Lord, and not to men: Knowing that whatsoever good thing any man doeth, the same shall he receive of the Lord, whether he be bond or free. And, ye masters, do the same things unto them, forbearing threatening: knowing that your Master also is in heaven; neither is there respect of persons with him.

Hebrews 13:7

Remember them which have the rule over you, who have spoken unto you the word of God: whose faith follow, considering the end of their conversation.
17 Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: [and the end of their conversation is this] for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account, that they may do it with joy, and not with grief: for that is unprofitable for you.

Just because I am “all-grown-up”
does not mean I do not have any authority over my life.
And as usual,
the best way to teach our children is through example.

 I will teach my children to have respect for each other and their classmates by showing respect for them and other children we come into contact with and also by how I interact with my own peers.

Part of being respectful is trying to anticipate needs and being responsive when needs are made known.

If I see that someone is walking towards a closed door with her arms full and I have nothing, and I do nothing to help, that is being disrespectful to her as a person. But if I speed my steps just enough to get there and open the door for her, I have shown respect. And it is of no consequence if I even know her.

I will teach my children how to have respect for their teachers and other authority {boss, police, laws/government, etc} by how I show my respect for those individuals.

If I take matters into my own hands even after clear instruction from an authority, then I am teaching my children that they, also, can pick and choose which instructions they wish to obey. But when I do all within my power to do what is expected {whether clearly stated or not} and do not make excuses when I cannot accomplish it, I teach my own children responsibility as well as respect.

And as a stay-at-home-wife/mother, my closest human authority is my husband. That is not to say he “bosses” me, { 🙂 } but he IS, Biblically, an authority in my life. And how I respond to his requests, how I convey my attitude after turning from him-body language, facial expressions… that says more than any words.

And when my children see me disrespect their daddy, they WILL show disrespect to others.

And they will not understand when someone tries to correct them. Confusion will ensue.

Since my children leave me for the day to attend school, the next most important authority relationship is with their teachers.

I wrote a little about how I must be willing to allow others to correct my children here.

And that lines up with teaching them respect, which in turn contributes to teaching responsibility!

So each day, my life is about more than “my life.”

Much of my life is about teaching my children to respect others and how to show that respect through kindness of actions and words.

My life is about striving to BE the person God created me to be… so they can learn to be the person God wants them to be!

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respect earned {14}

by tascha

Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.

Proverbs 31:23

This man who is the husband of our Virtuous Example was known in the gates. He sat with [possibly was an associate of] the elders. They knew him. He had influence- respect in society.

I do not believe that this little slice of information was arbitrarily placed in Proverbs 31.

This lady’s virtuous efforts were not lost to those around her. The community noticed. Other woman spoke highly of her to their own husbands [perhaps even the elders’ wives].

Though she did not strive to bring attention to herself, perhaps even the men noticed her when she was in the market– her kindness, generosity, gentleness, neatness, helpfulness. They knew that the man married to her had to be at least as good.

Her virtue brought him respect.

If you see a lady who is truly a lady, do you not have at least a measure of respect for her husband simply because of her virtue? I do.

So, I am encouraged to realize that, though it is not voiced to me frequently, I can know that others do [indeed!] observe how I live, train my children, dress my family, treat other people, how willing I am to help, how helpful my children are, how respectful I am towards my husband -as well as general authority.

But this encouragement also challenges me! –to truly strive to live a virtuous life. If I hear a compliment about my husband, I can know that my life had some small part of that. If others can know and speak well of my husband, then at least part of my assignment as a woman is on the right track! and I can be reminded to pray and beg a merciful God for His hand to produce virtue in my life.

Does this encourage you? I have nothing to boast of, but knowing that certain people think highly of my husband does bring a measure of fulfillment to what can become the mundane, and also gives a resolve to my spirit to seek Him every day-– to plead with the Holy God to live through me even more fully.

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wearing Daddy’s shoes

a crown for old men {day 17}

She has the energy of my entire life in her pinky. [still!]

Children’s children are the crown of old men; and the glory of children are their fathers. Proverbs 17:6

teaching respect

to respect carries the idea of “showing regard to, paying attention to”

[If I pay attention to and regard God’s Word, I will have no reason to be ashamed.]

[when we disregard God’s commands we will receive proper judgment just the same as the next person. No one is exempt from the consequences of his actions.]

[God will take notice of those who show humility.]

Just because I am “all-grown-up” does not mean I do not have any authority over my life. And as usual, the best way to teach our children is through example.

I will teach my children to have respect for each other and their classmates by showing respect for them and other children we come into contact with and also by how I interact with my own peers.

I will teach my children how to have respect for their teachers and other authority {boss, police, laws/government, etc} by how I show my respect for those individuals.

And when my children see me disrespect their daddy, they WILL show disrespect to others.

So each day, my life is about more than “my life.”

My life is about striving to BE the person God created me to be… so they can learn to be the person God wants them to be!

respect earned {14}

I do not believe that this little slice of information was arbitrarily placed in Proverbs 31.

Her virtue brought him respect.

Just because I am “all-grown-up”
does not mean I do not have any authority over my life.
And as usual,
the best way to teach our children is through example.

 I will teach my children to have respect for each other and their classmates by showing respect for them and other children we come into contact with and also by how I interact with my own peers.