Oh, this one may be one of the most difficult. It is very anti-cultural to speak of a man being a servant AND the one in charge…. not to mention they sound like completely opposite positions!
But not if we are following the example of Christ!
For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another. Galatians 5:13
28-So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself… 32-This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33-Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; Ephesians 5: 28, 32,33 [portions]
Christians are to be pictures of Christ in our service of others; and specifically, husbands are a picture of Christ in the home!
3-Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. 4- Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others. Philippians 2:3-4
But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. 1 Timothy 5:8